These responses were from people that are super successful in their own way - CEOs of their startups, owners of charming Brooklyn apartments, married with beautiful children, etc.
I wondered how they measure success and how I became the "winner" in a race I never tried to compete in. Then a former classmate elaborated on his comment by saying: "Many people dream about doing what you're doing, but you actually went and did it."
This, my friends, is called "designing your life". It is about being intentional about the life you want and not just letting whatever happens, happen. In 2017, I attended a workshop as a member of a professional/social organization called Ivy. The workshop was called "How to Design a Successful Life" led by the Handel Group. In this workshop, we were given a list of twelve different areas of our lives: 1) Self, 2) Body, 3) Love, 4) Spirituality, 5) Career, 6) Money, 7) Time, 8) Home, 9) Family, 10) Friends, 11) Fun and Adventure, 12) Community and Contribution. We were asked to write our dream or ideal for each of these 12 areas of our lives and what success would truly look like to us (not to our friends or family).
Then, for each category, on a scale of 1-10, we had to identify how close our current reality was to that dream. Afterwards, we had to describe our current reality in each category and write the reasons why we felt we didn't have our dream. And those reasons, or should I say, excuses, are what hold us back from living the life we truly want. It took me almost 2 years to work through all my excuses. It's a powerful exercise that I recommend everyone tries and the Handel Group can help coach you through it.
I still regularly go back to my list of dreams, update them where priorities or interests have shifted, and consider what actions I can take to overcome any excuses I believe are getting in the way. You can call me an idealist, but, life is pretty ideal for me right now. :)
Some moments in Medellin in which I've felt like a winner are:
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